Breaking the Mold Embracing Intersectionality
March is a time to reflect on the strides women have made in breaking free from the molds set by a male-dominated society. This celebration, rooted in the events of 1978 that laid groundwork for what we now call Women’s History Month, underscores the progress and ongoing challenges faced by women. It's a period to acknowledge how women have ventured into leadership roles, fought for bodily autonomy, and achieved independence in ways previously unimaginable. Yet, these achievements are layered with complexity when considering the additional identities women carry, revealing depths of systemic challenges that persist.
The concept of intersectionality is crucial in understanding the multifaceted experiences of women in America. It invites us to consider how various aspects of our identities—race, class, sexuality, and more—intersect to shape our experiences in unique ways. This Women’s History Month, let’s delve into the journey to womanhood and how these intersecting identities impact our lives.
My journey to womanhood has been a path of self-discovery, learning, and unlearning. It has involved peeling back layers of societal expectations and gender stereotypes that have long influenced perceptions of what it means to be a woman.
I have never liked wearing skirts and slips with stockings (against my Black, Catholic, grandmother’s wishes) or sitting with my legs delicately crossed at the ankles. I wanted to throw dirt and climb trees with the boys. I played contact sports and had an arm good enough to play outfield in softball. Even my original choice of career as a child was in the male-dominated fields of engineering and architecture. I am thankful my parents allowed me to express myself in the way I saw fit, to be who I wanted regardless of what they learned about femininity and Black-church culture growing up, but I still struggled internally.
Embracing my identity in its entirety has been both the most challenging and rewarding part of this journey. Society often dictates a narrow path for womanhood, leaving little room for deviation. When adding in my identity as a Black person in America, I was considered weird and a too “white” to be popular with the cool kids because of my love of alternative and rock music, but also too dark-skinned and kinky-haired to fit in with the white kids who were the majority where I grew up. I was too “rich” because my parents moved us to the suburbs, but too poor to fit in with the kids who lived in wealthier neighborhoods. I spoke both African American Vernacular English, but said “like” more than Cher in the movie Clueless. My struggles lied in breaking free from these confines to live authentically as all of who I was, and am.
“In the midst of these challenges, I found solace in the wisdom of Maya Angelou, whose resilience and authenticity resonated deeply with me.”
- Krystle Birdsall
At the beginning of the month, we asked our audience to share the women that they admire and the impact the’ve had on them. Here are some highlights:
“There is no other woman who has taught me more about life, living, and perseverance than my grandmother. She’s been thought so much in her life yet, [never] ceases to remind me, my siblings, and my cousins, that the reason’s she’s always kept goin and still believed in love is because of us. I saw a lot growing up, [and often wished to be left alone], but my grandmother has never let me feel like I was nothing. I just love her.” - J. B.
“All the women in my community - they show the vastness of life” - M.M.
As I journeyed towards embracing my identities, I sought to find my "people" – those who would accept and love me for all that I am. Growing up, I navigated a complex tapestry of societal expectations and cultural norms, grappling with the intersections of gender, race, and socio-economic status. In the midst of these challenges, I found solace in the wisdom of Maya Angelou, whose resilience and authenticity resonated deeply with me. Her words became a beacon of light, guiding me towards the realization that true belonging comes from embracing oneself fully, despite the pressures to conform. Through Angelou's teachings, I learned that my unique blend of identities is a source of strength, and that my journey towards self-acceptance is both individual and collective, as I seek connection with those who appreciate me for who I truly am.
“Maya Angelou taught me that storytelling is not merely an art form but a tool for liberation. By owning our narratives, we reclaim agency over our lives and empower others to do the same, something I am doing now as a mother of 3.”
- Krystle Birdsall
From Angelou, I've learned the power of storytelling and the importance of owning one’s narrative. Her words have taught me that there is strength in vulnerability and that our stories can be a source of healing and connection. This lesson has been instrumental in navigating my own journey and in understanding the diverse experiences of women around me. Maya Angelou's impact on my journey cannot be overstated. Her resilience, wisdom, and eloquence have served as guiding lights, illuminating my path through life's twists and turns. As a Black woman navigating the complexities of intersecting identities, Angelou's words resonate with a depth and power that few others can match. Her ability to articulate the nuances of human experience, particularly from the perspective of marginalized communities, has been nothing short of transformative.
More highlights from our audience
“My mom [is whom I most admire] for her commitment to being a better parent and going to therapy - it changed our relationship for the better.” - V.
“My paternal grandmother instilled in me a spirit of faith and peace and [it is] that faith that has been a constant source of strength throughout my life. - T.S.B.
“My daughter, she pushed through a near death situation and is now a brilliant new mom” - A.W.
What sets Angelou apart is not just her literary prowess, but her embodiment of strength and grace in the face of adversity. Through her own life story, she exemplifies the courage to confront and transcend societal barriers, demonstrating that authenticity is not just a choice but a revolutionary act. Her journey from pain to triumph, from trauma to resilience, serves as a beacon of hope for all who dare to embrace their truth unapologetically.
Maya Angelou taught me that storytelling is not merely an art form but a tool for liberation. By owning our narratives, we reclaim agency over our lives and empower others to do the same, something I am doing now as a mother of 3. Her words have taught me that vulnerability is not a weakness but a source of profound strength, capable of forging deep connections and fostering empathy. As I navigate my own journey, I carry with me Angelou's legacy of courage, resilience, and unyielding authenticity, inspired to write my own story with unwavering conviction.
The journey to womanhood, influenced by our multiple identities, is not without its trials. No one wants to feel alienated and “othered” just for being who they are. Yet, the journey is also filled with moments of profound strength and beauty. Living fully and authentically means embracing the entirety of our experiences, the triumphs and the struggles, and using them as a foundation for growth and empowerment.
As we celebrate Women's History Month, let us honor the women who have paved the way and those who continue to forge paths toward a more inclusive and equitable society. Let us commit to understanding and embracing intersectionality, recognizing that every woman's journey is unique and valuable. In doing so, we can create a world where all women can live fully and authentically as all of who they are.
